Board Thread:Naruto Discussions/@comment-43403813-20191029010046/@comment-9782468-20191127001623

@Ya Boi King Kai

I explained how I interpreted the differences between their hardship.

And to be fair, Itachi did give up his reputation for them, but he never cared about his reputation to begin with really. He never really cared how people perceived him. So I wouldn't call that pain.

And Itachi never told Sasuke any of it before he died.

Again, I feel the difference was choice. Itachi chose to go through those hardships because it was what he thought was right. He chose to bear the title of traitor to Konoha (which he didn't even care about as long as Konoha was safe).

Kakashi didn't choose for Obito to die, he didn't choose for Rin to die to the jutsu that Obito's eye helped him completed, he didn't choose to break his promise to Obito, he didn't choose to be kept from the battle that took his Sensei and mother figure away, who he'd been protecting for 9 months before that, and he certainly didn't choose to come home to his father dead from suicide. And due to his unfortunate life, he was unfairly given the title "friend-killer Kakashi." In contrast to Itachi choosing his traitor title.

Itachi chose a life of pain because he could see a reason behind it; protect Konoha

Kakashi had a life of pain that was given to him and endured, even though most of it had no reason except his own shortcomings.